Wait, that's not right. I'm having financial...easinesses? Is that a word?
|What say you, Mr. Enlarged Eye Freakishly Small|
Left Arm Four Handed Man?
I'm going to pause here so as not to launch into a rant about ways to achieve or not achieve equilibrium in a marriage, which encompasses not just money but responsibilities, effort, and emotional support.
|OM, baby. Just OM.|
I would not have left my marriage if I hadn't felt confident that I could support myself and Precocious Daughter. That's just the truth. If the income her father brought in meant the difference between making ends meet and not, then yes, I would have stayed, at least until she was grown up. Because I never would have wanted her to suffer or go without just because her parents' marriage had gone sour. I suppose that mindset is open to debate. But to my mind there is no argument to favor placing my happiness and security over hers.
The point is, I crunched the numbers and concluded my income was sufficient to pay our way. Although I'm paying way more in rent than I was paying for my mortgage, overall I figured our living expenses would be reduced by about 1/3 when we became a two-person household.
Boy, was I wrong.
|Because who understands money, amiright?|
Not even going to Google an image to go with that.
A few examples: The three of us used to go through at least a gallon of milk a week. Now, PDaughter and I can barely get through a half-gallon before it expires (around the two-week mark). I used to buy a 12-roll package of toilet paper every three weeks or so. I think I've bought TP twice in the three months PDaughter have been on our own. I run our dishwasher about twice a week (and it's usually not even full), whereas at the house it was nearly every day, with some glasses and dishes inevitably not being able to fit.
Seeing a pattern?
I keep thinking about what Marx and Engels said: From each according to his means, to each according to his needs.
I can't help but think that Karl and Fred would have called bullshit on my former spouse. Although I suppose the current Republican-controlled U.S. Congress would welcome him with open arms.
|Bitches be like "representative democracy," WTF?|
It seems that, on our own, PDaughter and I are able to live a simple yet abundant life that is not beyond our means.
I don't know how my almost-ex is faring. I haven't asked. Since he got twice as much as I did out of the sale of our home, I assume he's OK until the proceeds run out. I suspect he's not really budgeting for that day.
Not my problem, though.
I'm paying my bills and keeping us in groceries and furnishing our apartment by degrees. I think we're happy. I know we're keeping our heads above water financially.
It feels amazing to say that, you guys.
I hope everyone reading this can say the same.