Monday, September 11, 2017

Promises, Promises

Just a simple question or two tonight.

Do any of you suffer from abandonment issues? And if so, how do you maintain relationships within that emotional framework?

I was in a rocky relationship for 20+ years because I knew he would never leave me.

Now I'm with the love of my life, who is wonderful when he's there...but sometimes (many times?) he's not there at all.

I don't have a problem with being alone. But I have a problem with being with someone and feeling alone.

Is that a deal-breaker, or just something up with which I have to put?

Insight, advice, and virtual face-slaps are welcome here.



  1. I wish I had the answer. I've thought I was in a couple relationships that were solid in the past, only to have exactly the same scenario play out. I don't think I'm going to bother with one again. I'm not sad about it - just not interested.

    I think we all turn out to be alone either way.

    Sorry to be a downer.

  2. Until they perfect the technique to clone, y'all better remember you're all alone...

    Is it like popularity? Unattainable when you're seeking it and hollow in the end if you find it? Should you cherish that your heart still yearns and that it feels complete in the presence of another? Is it a physical loneliness or a mental loneliness? Cause it's always possible to be all alone in a room full of people after all. It's possible to feel isolation in a room full of friends for that matter.

  3. This is the tough time for a single mother after divorce. Usually mothers have to face these problems.


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