Thursday, December 3, 2015

Update on Dogs (Canine and Human Varieties)

Hey, you guys, I want to thank you for the outpouring of excellent advice regarding my recent dust-up with the almost-ex over funding for Darling Dog's bladder-stone surgery. You gave me a lot to think about, and made points I hadn't considered, which I'm learning is the point of open, honest communication. Who knew?

Not this soon-to-be-divorced person lady.
I still haven't made a decision on whether or not to give in to Almost-Ex's guilt-trip/emotional machinations and actually help pay for the procedure (well, beyond the $200 he already guilted me into turning over). Be that as it may, DDog's surgery is today, and I'm hoping to hear that it went well.

I want to put to rest the concern some of you expressed that my financial contribution was going to determine whether the surgery was going to happen. That was never the case. Almost-Ex may hound me (no pun intended) for the rest of my days about forking over the cash, but not having the stone removed was never - repeat, never - on the table.

My soon-to-be-former spouse is a lover of animals. He gets very attached to his pets. I could not have loved him otherwise. I could not love anyone who isn't devoted to his animals. His grief when our Senior Cat died last year was palpable and heartbreaking.

Trigger alert: I reread the post I just linked to and got teary. Be warned.


Here's a real-time update. I just got off the phone with my A-E. DDog is out of surgery and recovering from the anesthetic. They removed one large stone and a couple of smaller ones, and he should be OK by tomorrow.

They did find some polyps and areas of inflammation up in his works, and they're going to test those. Possibly they're just artifacts of his bladder/urinary tract/whatever the hell dogs have going on being irritated by the stones and will require only a round of antibiotics to treat. Worst-case scenario, they find doggy-cancer. We went through doggy-cancer with our previous mutt (LOL, not a mutt but a purebred English Setter from a championship line). We can do this.

We will do it together.

I've agreed to pay for the testing and whatever medicines are necessary.

I think that's fair.

And A-E thanked me and graciously allowed that my financial assistance is appreciated but not required.

This is what our pets do for us. They make us better people.

How could I not want this sweet boy to get better?

I miss him so much, Drunkards. Way more than I
miss being married.
What if I did a GoFundMe to help? Would anybody toss in a couple of bucks? I'd totally make it worth your while. Maybe.

Anyway, thanks again for helping me out. Still not sure why you bother. Love you all.


  1. Absolutely! And I'm glad DDog is doing well!

  2. Here's to hoping your puppy makes a full recovery

  3. Because we care... and would be happy to help you in any way.

  4. Because we care... and would be happy to help you in any way.

  5. If you set up a way to get contributions knowing that DDog was taken care of would be its own reward. And I'm hoping there's no sign of cancer.
    At every dog show my spouse goes to--which averages more than one a month every year--she contributes to the Chase Away K9 Cancer fund. At several she organizes the fundraising.
    It still never feels like enough to repay our dogs for the unconditional love they give us.

  6. Why we bother?

    1. We love you.

    2. We love DD.

    That's all.

  7. I won't have any funds until I get my first check from the new job in two weeks, but if I can help, I definitely will! I'm going to go ahead and speak for everyone that reads your blog and say that we love you SO FREAKING MUCH, and would be happy to help in any way we can.


You're thinking it, you may as well type it. The only comments you'll regret are the ones you don't leave. Also, replies to threads make puppies grow big and strong.