Thursday, December 31, 2015

Survey Says

So last year I wrote this:

In 2015, I resolve to:

  1. Get divorced.
  2. Leave my spouse.
  3. Get divorced.
  4. Start a new life.
  5. Commit myself fully to my dear Drummer Boy.
  6. Move.
  7. Get divorced.
  8. Start over.
  9. Leave the past behind.
  10. Be happy.
Let's see how I did.

This would be better with a little Steve Harvey.
Everything is better with a little Steve Harvey.

  1. Not officially divorced yet. The papers are filed, the assets (mostly) divided, custody worked out. Just not signed on the dotted line yet. 
  2. Leave my spouse. Accomplished, physically, at least. Boy, it was hard.
  3. Yeah, about that divorce thing. Shit got complicated with selling the house, and by the time the dust settled, it was the beginning of the holidays, and I couldn't bring myself to schedule a court date during the holidays.
  4. Define "starting a new life." I mean, I think so, yeah. But maybe not. The jury is still out on this.
  5. I am committed to being the kind of person Drummer Boy wants to be with. I have some work to do on myself to get there, I think.
  6. I moved! I totally did that thing. It was terrifying. But I am very happy in my new, tiny space. And it turns out Precocious Daughter is a pretty awesome roommate, although I'm glad I don't have to use her bathroom.
  7. Damn, I was pretty obsessed with the whole divorce thing last year at this time. Probably I should follow through and tie up that loose end in 2016.
  8. Have I started over? Or have I just moved into a new phase? Good question, 2015 Chuck. I suppose 2016 Chuck will have to figure that out.
  9. Leave the past behind. I mos def have not done that. I'm still dragging big chunks of it around with me. I'm not sure how much of it I want to get rid of. I've discarded a ton of things this year, for sure. But it turns out letting go of things is easier than letting go of the memories that go with them.
  10. Be happy. I'm trying. In 2016 I'm going to nail this. I hope.

So I'm not exactly batting 1.000 for the year. I'm OK with that. I actually got more accomplished than I dreamed I could. 

Your turn, guys. What did you want to do in 2015? What actually happened? What's on tap for the new year? Spill it.


  1. I don't comment often but since you asked...all I wanted out of 2015 was to find a house (we've spent over a year looking). And we did! On tap for the new year is to move into said house and begin creating it into "our" home.

    Happy New Year!


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