tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post2656468011916792238..comments2024-03-11T02:26:38.210-05:00Comments on Always Drunk: What Would You Do, Drunkards?Chuck Baudelairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07856142744531037691noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-3701769798842023432015-12-02T17:50:43.145-06:002015-12-02T17:50:43.145-06:00I'm with Gigi. PD shouldn't know anything...I'm with Gigi. PD shouldn't know anything about who-pays-what, and if he tells her then he's a shit. She may not get that now, but she will get it, eventually. (Keep that in mind generally, BTW -- eventually she will figure all this out on her own, and know that you took the High Road).Miss Othmarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-86204590664738888662015-12-01T17:05:52.442-06:002015-12-01T17:05:52.442-06:00Okay, if I've got this clear, you received les...Okay, if I've got this clear, you received less on the sale AND you have the full financial burden of your daughter and the cat (this I take to mean that he is not paying child or any other type of support to you). If that is the case, then he needs to pay for the dog's care and he should be ashamed of himself for using guilt tactics.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-19441999058384746232015-12-01T09:54:11.269-06:002015-12-01T09:54:11.269-06:00I hesitate to say much cause it's only my seco...I hesitate to say much cause it's only my second or third visit here but I've been through divorce and I know how frustrating everything is (especially finances). The only thing you may want to consider is how close is your daughter to the dog? Just thinking that if the dog and her are best friends then you might want to do what you can to mitigate the situation. Perhaps you offer a contribution to the surgery and it doesn't have to be even close to half the amount. Just a thought but I see your perspective and totally been there...they (the ex) always seem to be wrangling for something... and it clouds our patience and ability to see the big picture.Lisa Thomsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05310475781785711620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-53140764366454051702015-12-01T09:46:56.496-06:002015-12-01T09:46:56.496-06:00This happened to my family's miniature schnauz...This happened to my family's miniature schnauzer, many years ago. It turned out he had 50 little kidney stones in there and it was blocking things up. We paid for it and he was healthy for a few more years... Maybe 6?<br /><br />Then, it happened again. By that time, he was old and they had him put to sleep. <br /><br />It turns out that once it happens, it is fairly likely to happen again.<br /><br />That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. You probably should! But they ought to tell you that it's probably not going to be the last time. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16323871207793126503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-8264411833435450722015-12-01T08:26:50.704-06:002015-12-01T08:26:50.704-06:00I'm sorry, I'm too emotionally bound up in...I'm sorry, I'm too emotionally bound up in this to offer any kind of answer. All I can say is it's criminal to use a dog, or any pet, for emotional blackmail. It's not any better when it's a person being used but at least a person can have some understanding of how they're being used.<br /><br />Having lived with dogs with bladder stones I can only say do the surgery as soon as possible. Even if Darling Dog isn't in any discomfort now you don't want to wait.Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10320886074658710855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-5011834892124187432015-12-01T07:10:08.403-06:002015-12-01T07:10:08.403-06:00Don't do it, I know easier said than done. You...Don't do it, I know easier said than done. You have to take care of what you have... which does not include the dog. Especially with the financial situation and that you are the responsible parent for PD. He is only responsible for the dog and himself... sounds like he should take care of his appointed family. Also who is to say that the $1600 is the actual cost. I have had a divorced bio dad, who played the games. My gut feeling is this is emotional and financial warfare and will continue through the holidays. Watch... if you give him the money likely some awesome bigger and better christmas might use it to work at denting your happiness with PD. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11635508389031346013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-12050840402794782482015-12-01T04:06:39.093-06:002015-12-01T04:06:39.093-06:00The thing is, I can't even envisage letting a ...The thing is, I can't even envisage letting a dog suffer. I'd rather suffer myself. Really, truly and literally, I would rather give my life than have a dog hurt for a minute. So I am not the best person to respond on this because where dogs are concerned I react purely on an emotional level.Bill the Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08436195659154078021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-64003646518445881682015-12-01T04:03:40.919-06:002015-12-01T04:03:40.919-06:00Don't feel guilty. Tell him you simply cannot ...Don't feel guilty. Tell him you simply cannot afford it. And when he says, "But...", say again, " Really, I'd like to but I simply cannot afford it. "Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07257516928972859500noreply@blogger.com