tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post887161419411176164..comments2024-03-11T02:26:38.210-05:00Comments on Always Drunk: Feedback Request re: SexChuck Baudelairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07856142744531037691noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-51281455059652663322015-06-02T21:56:10.794-05:002015-06-02T21:56:10.794-05:00Excuse me while my head explodes.... but seriousl...Excuse me while my head explodes.... but seriously, a few years ago, we lost someone that we loved very much due to HIV/AIDS. She told me once that she sat in a room one time listening to women complain about their kids and the possibility of them getting pregnant w/o one time mentioning the potential for disease. She said she told them, you know, there are worse things in the world than babies. She said this to me with such sadness that her face and voice still haunt me today. I mention this because yes, get her on the pill (love the belt and suspenders comment above!!!!)...yes, teach her about love and respect and all of that, but PLEASE PLEASE teach her to be SAFE. Pregnancy and babies are life changing but a disease can be life ending. *very after school special of me, I know...but I love this kid*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00932740981645161711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-44910165414715045002015-05-29T18:56:53.266-05:002015-05-29T18:56:53.266-05:00Wow..this is a tough one. My mom was open with me...Wow..this is a tough one. My mom was open with me and put me on the pill before I even needed it. Did it work? Well, I didn't get pregnant. Was I open with her? No. But we had a complicated relationship. Did I plan to be open and honest with my daughter, if I ever had one, yes. But I didn't. I had a boy.<br /><br />But, I think having that open line of communication (which I do have with that boy) is important. Yes, you don't want them to do certain things (they are your BABIES, for God's sake!!) - but you know they will do what they will do.<br /><br />In sum, you are doing the right thing. And, obviously, doing it well since the line of communication between the two of you seems to be wide open.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-32927714725827758922015-05-29T07:28:54.454-05:002015-05-29T07:28:54.454-05:00From the way you describe PD you're doing ever...From the way you describe PD you're doing everything right as a parent. You're the sort of parent some people wish they had.<br /><br />If I may offer an XY perspective: I hope PD's boyfriend is getting the same advice from his parents. He sounds like a good guy, and if he is he's also afraid because he knows he doesn't have to be ruled by his hormones, but they're putting a lot of pressure on him. And he's afraid because he doesn't want to pressure someone he loves into doing something they're not ready to do regardless of what his hormones are telling him. <br /><br />And here's advice I'd have mixed feelings about if I were a parent: you only get one shot at a first time, but don't have high expectations. It can, and likely will, get better. At this point in your life you barely know your body, but experience is the only way to get to know it.<br /><br />I'd have mixed feelings about that because on the one hand I'd want to take some of the pressure off of the first time. On the other hand if it were my child I'd be terrified of encouraging them. I'd be terrified that it wasn't their first time that was the problem, but me. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10320886074658710855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-72625112680755449752015-05-29T05:19:39.053-05:002015-05-29T05:19:39.053-05:00You are doing all the right things. Trust your ins...You are doing all the right things. Trust your instincts. I didn't have that talk with my daughter, and when I found out that she had had sex at fifteen (by reading her diary, because I had suspicions), I immediately took her to see a gynecologist and got her on the pill, but it was bass ackwards, you know? Hopefully, she will stick with the good guys who will be respectful and know when no means no, and only be intimate when in a loving, committed relationship. My daughter didn't make very wise choices in that area.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-9127915452573986922015-05-29T05:03:04.942-05:002015-05-29T05:03:04.942-05:00Don't freak out. Fifteen is a perfectly normal...Don't freak out. Fifteen is a perfectly normal age. She has come to you and trusts you. Honor that by getting her set up with birth control, but encourage condoms. It puts the boyfriend in a position of responsibility. Plus, belt and suspenders.<br /><br />She is considering having sex for the right reasons: she's in a relationship that has some time on it, and she cares about and trusts her partner. <br /><br />I had sex at age 17 so that my boyfriend of six weeks would stick around. Spoiler alert: it was a fuck and run.<br /><br />So. I'm sure this is outside your comfort zone. Trust that you have raised a good kid. And she's going to grow up without hang ups! How great is that??aehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13302025293493191266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1841841084671666214.post-59240155907252110982015-05-28T22:40:42.184-05:002015-05-28T22:40:42.184-05:00Not at all. Always encourage that line of communic...Not at all. Always encourage that line of communication because even if it's something small now, it'll let her know you will be there for her even when it's a big problem. She's so lucky to have you for her mother.Simoreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14436883436068119284noreply@blogger.com